A podcast dedicated to exploring topics and issues that enhance the lives and relationships of listeners. Calvin Williams is a Licensed Professional Counselor with over 25 years of experience helping clients overcome difficult challenges associated with mental health, addiction, and emotional wellness. Calvin enjoys working with people and has a desire to empower clients on their road to personal growth and development. This is a personal journey of living intentionally, sharing life stories, embracing vulnerability and the universal truth that we are not alone. Calvin is not your traditional therapist. He loves to laugh and find connection with others. So pull up a cushion and make yourself comfortable on The Counselor's Couch. Live Intentionally, Love Daily and Laugh Often.
Ever wondered if laughter could be the key to a healthier, happier life? Tune in as we uncover how humor isn't just entertainment—it's a powerful tool for self-care that can transform your emotional and physical well-being. We'll explore the fascinating science behind laughter, delving into how it acts as an emotional buffer, boosts resilience, and strengthens social bonds. Discover how laughter triggers the brain to release mood-enhancing chemicals like dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin, offering natural pain relief and improved circulation and immune function. Plus, you'll gain practical tips on weaving humor into your daily routine, helping you transform stressful moments into manageable ones.
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Greetings everybody and welcome back to the Counselor's Couch. I'm your host, calvin Williams, licensed professional counselor, and, as always, I'm here to remind you that life doesn't come with a manual, but it should come with a couch and a sense of humor. Today is one of my favorite topics humor and self-care. Why? Well, because let's face it, some of us are better at laughing at life than we are at managing it and, honestly, face it, some of us are better at laughing at life than we are at managing it and, honestly, that's not really a bad thing. Now, before we dive in, I just want to say that self-care isn't a one-size-fits-all type thing. Some of you may be skeptics about the idea, as laughter is a self-care. But stick around, you might be surprised. And if you're not well, at least you're going to get a few bad jokes out of it, like this one what do you call fake spaghetti? An impasta? I know right now there would be crickets as a sound effect. The things I do in the name of mental health. All right, enough small talk, let's get into why. Humor might just be the secret sauce to taking care of yourself. But before we get started, let me remind you again nothing provided in this podcast implies a therapeutic relationship between counselor and client. It is solely for education and entertainment, I hope to empower you to become more self-aware and challenge you to create the life you desire. Counseling can help you overcome challenges, enhance your relationships and develop skills to lead the life you want. If you're considering therapy, then please reach out to a trained, licensed professional in your community. If you're seeking counseling in the Monroe Louisiana area, or if you live anywhere in Louisiana and you are interested in participating in teletherapy with state-approved professionals, then contact the providers at HealthPoint Center. Change starts here. Psychology and Counseling Services. Healthpoint is a collaboration of independent professionals who are dedicated to improving your quality of life and guiding you on a positive path toward change. That's HealthPoint Center, located at 1818 Avenue of America, monroe, louisiana. So call today to inquire about services providers or book an appointment at area code 318-998-2700. Well, it's that time again. So pull up a cushion, kick off your shoes and grab a cup of coffee. Let's get started with the session.
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When you think about self-care, we often picture activities like journaling, meditating, going for a walk in nature or even attending therapy. And don't get me wrong, these are all great ideas. But here's my question why doesn't humor get the same love? Because in my book, laughter isn't just something you do for fun, it's a survival skill. It's how we make sense of a world that doesn't always make sense. Humor helps us build resilience. It's like an emotional buffer. You ever noticed how some of the funniest people you know are also the ones who have been through the most? Well, it's not a coincidence. Humor gives us a way to cope. It's like a shield and a sword, and all in one, and sometimes it's the only thing that can keep us sane. Now, studies from lots of institutions like the Mayo Clinic show that laughter reduces stress hormones like cortisol. Regular laughter has been linked to improved immune function, helping your body fight off illness. And shared laughter strengthens social bonds, making it a cornerstone of emotional support networks.
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Now think about a time when you were going through something stressful and somebody made you laugh. Maybe you were late to work, spilled coffee on yourself, and then a co-worker said well, at least you're already dressed for casual Friday. Suddenly, the situation didn't feel so bad. Right, that's the power of humor. You know, I'll never forget this one client who told me years ago I don't need therapy, I need a comedian. So I said, why not both Turns out, when we incorporated humor into our sessions, it helped him open up in many different ways that he hadn't before. It made the hard stuff feel manageable, and that's what humor does. It doesn't eliminate the tough times, but it helps us carry on. So let's get scientific for a moment, because laughter isn't just fun. It's chemistry. And no, I don't mean that awkward kind of chemistry you feel on a bad first date. I'm talking about what happens in your brain when you laugh.
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Now let's start with the brain's reaction to humor. First of all, there's a dopamine release. This is your brain's feel-good chemical. It floods your system when you laugh, creating a sense of pleasure. Next, your body will release endorphins. These are the body's natural painkillers, providing you a mild euphoric feeling. Now studies also show that the brain gets a boost of serotonin. That's the neurotransmitter associated with mood stabilization. During this laughter time, it sounds like the brain knows the importance of a good dad joke.
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But what about the physical effects of laughter? Laughter increases blood flow and improves circulation, which is great for the heart and overall health. A hearty laugh can relax muscles and relieve physical tension for up to 45 minutes. Laughter also increases antibody production and activates T-cells, which are vital in fighting infections and boosting your immunity. You know it's like a full-body workout without the gym membership. Honestly, if laughter burned more calories, I'd have six-pack abs by now.
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I want you to picture your stress as a balloon. Laughter is like letting a little air out before the balloon pops. It's a release valve and the best part, it's free. No co-pays, no prescriptions, just your own ability to find something funny. All right, so we know that humor is good for you, but how do you actually make it a part of your self-care routine? Because, let's be honest, life isn't always a comedy show. Sometimes it feels more like a three-hour DMV line. So here are some tips for daily humor practices.
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Start your day with laughter Instead of scrolling through the news. Start your morning with a funny video or a meme or podcast. Podcasts like Wait, wait, don't Tell Me, or Smartless that's one of my favorites. Even stand-up comedy specials on Sirius Radio are great for the commute. Find something humorous.
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Next, try keeping a humor journal. Write down funny moments or inside jokes that just made you laugh. Use it as a pick-me-up on tough days. You know a lot of great comedians will keep a notebook handy just to jot down their next great idea, and trust me, life will often provide you with a lot of material to work with. Next, surround yourself with humor. Decorate your space with funny quotes or images that just make you smile. Try following social media accounts that post lighthearted content.
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For example, one of my clients once told me that they had a playlist called. For example, one of my clients once told me that they had a playlist called Songs that Make Me Dance Like Nobody's Watching. Now, were they a good dancer? Absolutely not, but the joy they got from it was the point. Humor works the same way. Don't overthink it.
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Another suggestion is to try laughter yoga. Yes, this is a real thing. Just Google it. There's nothing better than a two-minute laugh out loud. It's laughter meditation. Now, this combines breathing exercises with intentional laughter and, yeah, it feels silly, but that's the point. It works because it's ridiculous. Silly, but that's the point. It works because it's ridiculous.
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For me, one of the easiest ways to inject humor into my day is to watch stand-up comedy. You know, I've always appreciated a good stand-up. In fact, I can still quote lines from Eddie Murphy's stand-up routine in the 1980s. It's like therapy, except the therapist is hilarious and you don't have to schedule an appointment. But let's be real for a second.
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There are days when life feels anything but funny, whether it's a rough day at work, a personal loss or just the weight of the world pressing down. Humor can feel kind of out of reach, and that's okay. Humor isn't about pretending everything's perfect. It's about giving yourself a break from carrying the load. Now, when humor feels impossible, it's often due to stress or feeling overwhelmed. Your brain is in a fight or flight mode. It makes it harder to access that part in which you can find things funny. Imagine trying to laugh during a thunderstorm. It's hard when you're just trying to stay dry.
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Guilt will play a role in finding humor. You might feel guilty for laughing during tough times, as if it minimizes your pain or the seriousness of the situation. Many people will think how can I laugh when things are so bad? This is just not true. Sometimes, as I said, it's just our only way forward. Sometimes it's hard to find humor when we're feeling disconnected. When you're going through a tough time, you might feel isolated or unable to connect with others or other people's humor. In fact, the phrase I don't find anything funny anymore can kind of become a common refrain.
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So how do we reignite our humor in hard times. Well, first, start small and stay present. You don't need to jump into a stand-up special or crack a joke right away. Begin with small things that made you smile before, like revisiting a funny memory or looking at a goofy picture of a pet. Now try this exercise Close your eyes and think about the last time you laughed until you cried. What was the context? Reliving that moment can reignite the positive emotions associated with humor. Next, give yourself permission to laugh. Remind yourself that it's okay to find joy even in difficult moments. Humor doesn't erase pain. It gives you the strength to sit with it. Acknowledge that laughter is a coping tool, not a sign that you're ignoring or minimizing what you're going through.
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It is oftentimes helpful to seek out gentle humor. Watch or read things that are lighthearted rather than over the top. Sometimes subtle humor like an episode of the Office or a relatable comic strip can be less overwhelming when you're feeling down. Then there's always the fake-it-till-you-make-it approach. Science has proven that even fake laughter can trick your brain into releasing feel-good chemicals. So try forcing a laugh. It might feel silly, but before you know it it could turn into a real chuckle. Imagine telling a ridiculous joke to your reflection in the mirror. Sure, it feels awkward, but that awkward moment might just get you giggling.
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I remember one particular rough day when everything seemed to go wrong. You know, my car wouldn't start, my coffee machine broke and I was running late for a meeting. I was about ready to just give up on the day when I saw somebody in my neighborhood walking their dog, dressed in a matching raincoat and galoshes. It was crazy. It was ridiculous and charming, but I couldn't help but laugh. That small moment didn't erase my bad day, but it lightened my mood enough to keep going. So I want to send out a thank you to you, whoever you are. Now. Here's something that you can try today Write down the funniest thing that's happened to you in the past month.
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It doesn't have to be a grand moment. Maybe you tripped over your shoelaces or accidentally sent a text to the wrong person. The act of revisiting those moments can bring laughter back into focus. All right, now it's time for my favorite part of the show your stories. Over the past couple of weeks, I've asked people to kind of send in their funniest self-care moments and let me tell you, everybody delivered.
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These stories prove that even when you're trying to take care of yourself. Life has a way of keeping things interesting. The first one we'll call the bubble bath bonanza. This listener wrote in and said I finally decided to have one of those Pinterest-worthy self-care evenings Candles, music, the whole nine yards. I poured in some bubble bath and then a little more, and then some more. Before I knew it, the tub was overflowing with foam and I couldn't see my own bathroom floor. I spent the next hour scooping bubbles into a trash bag. My dog refused to come near me for a full week, probably thinking I was some kind of soap monster. Now, this is why I say self-care isn't about perfection, it's about enjoying the ride. Sure, you ended up with a bubble explosion, but now you got a hilarious story to tell. Plus, I'm pretty sure that your bathroom smelled great for days.
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Another one is actually from a listener commenting on one of those laughter yoga classes. This listener writes I joined a laughter yoga class because I heard it was a great way to reduce stress. It started fine, but during one of the breathing exercises I snorted so loud that the entire class burst into laughter and we couldn't stop. And eventually we were all lying on the floor in tears, laughing so hard. We couldn't breathe. It was the best yoga session ever. Now see, this is a perfect example of why humor is so powerful. Not only did you create a moment of joy for yourself, but you also brought the whole class in on it. Talk about contagious positivity.
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Another one is a DIY gone wrong. During a stressful week, I decided to make my own face mask with honey and oatmeal. I didn't realize I'd used too much honey until my dog started trying to lick my face while I was meditating. Well, let's just say that meditation session didn't go as planned. Note to self when meditating with a DIY face mask, lock the dog out of the room. Now, on the bright side, you probably made your dog's day and gave yourself a great story to laugh about later. Now, why do these stories matter?
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These moments are a reminder that humor isn't just something that happens to us. It's something we create. Even when things don't go as planned, humor gives us the ability to look back and laugh. It's not about avoiding life's messiness. It's about finding joy in the chaos. So here's what I want you to do, listeners Think of a funny self-care moment you've had and share it with somebody, whether it's your best friend, a family member, or even me. Yes, I read every message. Humor is even better when it's shared, and you never know who might need to laugh.
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Life doesn't always hand us picture-perfect moments, but it does give us plenty of opportunities to laugh. By finding the humor in everyday situations, even the messy ones, we're taking care of our minds, our hearts and our souls, and that, my friends, is the best self-care ever. Now, today, I want to leave you with a quote from Mark Twain Humor is the great thing, the saving thing. After all, the minute it crops up, all our irritations and resentments slip away and a sunny spirit takes their place. Humor is mankind's greatest blessing. Remember, folks, life is not about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. You are not alone. You're more capable than you ever will know, so embrace it. Live intentionally, love daily and laugh often. Do your best today and become what you can be. The world needs you.
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